Author Archives: Laurie Cole

Front Porch Friday: A Boy Mama Question for ALL Mamas

School’s out and the kids are home for the summer, so I’m re-running a very popular post from last summer’s Ask Laurie series.  Discover the #1 thing I learned as the mother of three sons, and the #1 thing I wish I’d done differently. And trust me, this will apply to you girl mamas and grandmamas, too. So c’mon! Join me on the porch for Front Porch Friday: The Boy Mama, Girl Mama, Grandmama, kids-are-home-for-the-ENTIRE-summer edition!

Praying for ALL of you mamas,



What’s the #1 thing you’ve learned as a mom? 

Click here to watch other videos in the “Ask Laurie” series!

How to Stay Happily Married: Top 10 Things My Parents Have Taught Me

Mother & DaddyThere’s married. Then there’s happily married. And for 60 years (60 years!!) my parents, John and Julia McKay, have enjoyed a happy marriage. How have they done it?

As I’ve pondered and prayed about that question over the past couple of days, I have come up with some answers based upon my own observations of their marriage.  So, to honor them, and in hopes that this will bless and encourage you, I’m sharing the top ten things my parents have taught me about how to stay happily married.

I’ll share the first five (in no particular order) today and the rest next Monday. How I pray this will bless and encourage you.

The Top 10 Things My Parents Have Taught Me About How to Stay Happily Married

 

1.  Recognize and respect one other’s strengths. The theory that “opposites attract” describes my parents’ marriage perfectly. They are soooo different.

So how have these two opposites managed to avoid opposition? Many years ago, they chose to admire each another’s strengths and, even more, to allow the diversity of their strengths to shine.

 2.  Recognize and accept one other’s weaknesses. Based upon my own marriage and experience, I think this probably took way more time than many of the other things on this list.

But instead of spending 60 frustrating years in the futile pursuit of trying to change one another, Mother and Daddy recognized their own weaknesses . . . and amiably chose to accept one another’s as well.

 3.  Love the Lord first and foremost. This is the hallmark – the very foundation – of my parent’s marriage. Their commitment to God and their desire to serve and obey Him dominates and permeates their relationship.

And because of that, He has blessed their marriage, their partnership, their children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren in exceeding, extravagant ways. But even more than that, He has used their marriage to point others to Himself.

 4.  Share parental responsibilities. My brothers and I  often say that we were raised under the law and grace: Mother was the law; Daddy was grace. They each had very different parenting styles.

The key, however, was that they both participated in the parenting process. And somehow, their law and grace method made us love and respect them equally.

5.  Forgive and don’t hold grudges. If you have ever been exposed to a toxic marriage where bitterness and animosity grew together under the same roof, then you have likely seen the foul fruit of unforgiveness.

 60 years. Under the same roof. And as I already said, they are two very different people. But by choosing to forgive, their home consistently produces the fragrant fruit of “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, [and] gentleness” (Gal. 5:22-23).

Next Monday, I’ll share the final five of this Top 10 list. But until then, maybe you should do what I have been doing for the past couple of days: pondering and praying over the first five, and asking God to help me stay not just married.

But happily married.

Your sister,

Laurie-sig-300dpiWhat have you learned through your marriage – or someone else’s –  about how to stay happily married? 

Front Porch Friday Goes to the Office

Front Porch Friday logoReady for a road trip? Let’s take a break from the porch today and head to my office, okay? I want you to meet a couple of my friends and Priority staff members, and I want you to see YOUR soon-to-be, brand new Glo Girl Blog home. Click play, and I’ll see you at the office!

Thanks for coming to the office with me today!

Your sister,

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Front Porch Friday: Sick Day

Front Porch Friday logoI’m sick with the yeechy-est cold/sinus infection I’ve had in a very long time. Yesterday I even broke down and bought a Neti-Pot. Yeech, indeed.

And because you really don’t want to see my yeechy self on the porch (and trust me, you don’t), and because I really could use a little help in dealing with my gross-and-unattractive, sinus-infected self, I  have the perfect video for both of us today. Watch. I promise. You’ll be blessed.

Your sister,

Laurie-sig-300dpiWhat did you think about the video? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

P. S. God thinks you are beautiful!

“For your royal husband delights in your beauty; honor him, for he is your lord.”  Psalm 45:11 NLT

NOTE: Special thanks to “Full of Grace” for sharing this video with me.

Front Porch Friday: What To Do When You Fail God

Front Porch Friday logoFailure. It’s one of the worst feelings in the world. But there is one thing worse: failing God. What do you do when you fail Him? Find out today on Front Porch Friday as Laurie and Mindy Ferguson conclude their series, Why Did I Say That? 5 Things You Should Never Tell God. See you on the porch!

Your sister,

Laurie-sig-300dpiIf you’ve enjoyed Mindy’s Front Porch Friday series like I have, post a comment and let her know. 

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The Secret to Enjoying a Spoiled Rotten Mother’s Day

Poor me, I thought. For the first time in my life, I wouldn’t be home with my kids and grandkids for Mother’s Day.

Poor me NOT!

4I just returned home from one of the very best Mother’s Day weekends of my entire life, and I have a secret to share with all of you mothers and others: Next year, spend your Mother’s Day away.

That’s exactly what Shanda and I did this past weekend as we traveled to Camp Harrison — a first-class, breathtakingly beautiful, YMCA camp – in the mountains of North Carolina for a Women’s Wellness Weekend Retreat where I spoke and where we and a group of other women were spoiled completely rotten. Take a look:

2Meet Trace, our chef for the weekend.

Yes, that’s right, chef. Who knew camp food and fine cuisine could be synonymous?

1As in freshly prepared individual quiche cups with hand-made crust and garden-picked herbs for breakfast. Yum!

And on Sunday morning, Trace and his staff prepared eggs benedict, sweet potato biscuits, a smorgasbord of other decadent choices, and . . .

12Mom-osas to drink (a yummy non-alcoholic concoction of orange juice and peach nectar garnished with strawberries). And see those cobalt blue cups? Joy of all Mother’s Day joys, they are filled with My Very Favorite Dessert of all time: panna cotta topped with sweet berries! Dessert for breakfast! Could there possibly be a more perfect spoiled-rotten Mother’s Day treat??!!!

1314Some moms came by themselves to the retreat. Others came with their moms and grandmoms. But several moms brought their precious daughters with them for the weekend (I enjoyed teaching all of them a mother-daughter version of Beauty by The Book).

Oh, and did I also mention they had a masseuse at camp? Yes, to God be the glory, a masseuse!

8Here’s Shanda (right) with Lisa Eller (left – Camp Harrison staff member and our new best friend), standing in front of the mountain-top massage tee-pee! What you cannot see is the massage therapist, Tina, inside that tee-pee with her perfectly blended lavender and rosemary aromatherapy oil, hot towels, and the Tempur-pedic massage table (oh, my goodness, the angels must have made this just for moms). With anointed hands blessed by God above, Tina spoiled women rotten all weekend long – including Shanda!

10The friendly female Camp Harrison staffers made all of us moms feel, well, almost as young as they were during our Mother’s Day Away. With their kind help, we zip-lined, canoed, hiked, biked, and some of us even Zumba-ed (which was probably less about fitness and more about building our appetites for the next chef-inspired meal).

7We even rode horses! Meet Ringo, my gentle, handsome steed.

6And these are the amazing Camp Harrison cowgirls who had the power to coax and encourage me to saddle-up and overcome my I’m-way-too-old-for-this inhibitions, and rediscover just how relaxing a horseback ride really can be.

With several cool, woodsy trails to choose from, Shanda and I chose one of the easier ones (we’re adventurous, but we enjoy our adventure as sweat-free as possible).

9We talked and laughed the entire hike (even though we did sweat a teensy bit). But what an accomplishment it was to make it to the top and take this selfie in front of the waterfall!

11That evening, we enjoyed a country-gospel-bluegrass concert at the scenic, open-air Billy & Ruth Graham Chapel. The group was great, and the mountain-top scenery was the icing on the Mother’s-Day-Away cake.

Alas, our Mother’s Day Away was over far too soon. We met so many wonderful moms, grandmoms, and girls. And we’re so grateful to Dave & Margie Purcell, Camp Directors at Camp Harrison, for inviting us to be part of such a glorious and memorable weekend.

But God had one more blessing in store for Shanda and me on our Mother’s Day Away weekend.

15Popcorn!!! We sniffed it out during our layover at the Chicago Midway Airport and quickly decided to let the spoiled-rotten treatment continue — even on the plane!

The secret to enjoying a spoiled rotten Mother’s Day? Mother’s Day Away.

Will you miss your kids and grandkids? Yes, you probably will. But do it anyway. Because there’s another secret to enjoying a spoiled rotten Mother’s Day: extend the spoiled rottenness.

Celebrate a two-weekends-in-a-row Mother’s Day. One weekend with the kids and grandkids. One weekend away. What more can I say except, “Hip hip hooray for Mother’s Day!”

Your spoiled rotten sister,

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 Did you enjoy a spoiled-rotten Mother’s Day? Tell me about it, OR share your favorite spoiled-rotten Mother’s Day ideas.  Love hearing from you!

Front Porch Friday: 5th Thing You Should NEVER Tell God

Front Porch Friday logoIt may be the worst thing anybody ever said about Jesus — and God heard every word. Have you said it, too? Discover what it is on today’s Front Porch Friday as Laurie and Mindy Ferguson continue their series, Why Did I Say That? 5 Things You Should Never Tell God.

Your sister,

Laurie-sig-300dpiMindy and I would love to hear from you. Post a comment and share your heart, your wisdom, your insights, and your prayer requests!

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5 Ways God Can Use YOU To Reach Women

You don’t have to be a trained Women’s Ministry leader. You don’t have to be a certain age or have a certain amount of experience. And if, perhaps, you’re a little nervous about public speaking, no worries there either.

Precious sister, if God has given you a heart to reach the women in your church and community, you can do it.

How do I know? Two reasons:

  1. Because of God’s promise: “Faithful is He that calleth you, who also will do it (1 Thess. 5:24 KJV).” Those God calls He also equips.
  2. Because for the past 25+ years, I have spoken at hundreds of effective women’s ministry events led by women young and old, experienced and inexperienced, intro and extroverted, and these women had only one thing in common: a God-given heart to reach women for Christ.

Are you a woman like that? If so, then please let me share:

5 Ways God Can Use YOU to Reach Women for Christ

1)        Organize a Women’s Retreat. The best ones are simple, relaxed, and allow women time alone with God, time in God’s Word, and provide some much-needed fun and fellowship with other women. Oh, and good food is always a plus, too.

Just a couple of weekends ago, I spoke at a women’s retreat for Grace Community Church in Visalia, California. Led and organized by Christine DeHaan, it had all of the elements of an ahhh-just-right retreat.

Visalia 1The women had plenty of time to laugh, share, and get to know each other.

Visalia 3And lots of fun activities to help them bond together in groups.

Visalia 2That’s Christine in the striped shirt. A fantastic group of women served and led the retreat with her, which reminds me of another reason why you really can reach women: godly, gifted, like-hearted women will come alongside and help you.

2)        Plan an Annual Women’s Banquet or Brunch.  This is hands-down one of the most effective ways to reach women outside your church.  Women who would never attend a Bible study or retreat will attend a banquet or brunch.

Usually held in the spring around Mother’s Day or in the fall around Thanksgiving and Christmas, these two-hour events include a delicious meal, friendly table hostesses, inspirational music, and a message (that should always include the gospel). Door prizes, fashion shows, and photo booths are fun additions, too.

Mims Baptist Church in Conroe, Texas hosts an annual Ladies Spring Banquet. I was privileged to be their speaker recently, and not only did I meet some wonderful new women . . .

Mims Conroe 3. . . I also enjoyed a sweet reunion with Alice Petty a faithful, former member of my church who moved to Conroe many years ago.

Mims Conroe 1Led by Kim Pate (pictured at right — and that’s her sweet daughter standing next to her) . . .

Mims Conroe 2. . .and a host of women who decorated the tables and served as hostesses, the men of Mims Baptist also did their part by graciously serving the meal to each table.

Reach the women in your church and — more importantly — outside your church for Christ. Plan an annual banquet or brunch.

3)        Plan a Saturday Morning Mini-Conference. Busy and broke. Two reasons why many women cannot attend a two or three-day retreat. Enter the mini-conference!

In three short hours – from 9-noon – you can organize a women’s ministry outreach that includes two sessions with music, practical, Bible-based teaching, and a coffee/light snack break.

That’s exactly the kind of outreach First Baptist Church of Jacksboro, Texas recently hosted.

Jacksboro 2And they went all out by providing a beautiful luncheon at the conclusion of the mini-conference for those who could stay.

Jacksboro 1Even if you’re a busy woman with six kids like Linda Bennett (pictured above), God can use you to reach and minister to other busy women at a mini-conference.

4)        Organize a Girls Lock-in. What girl doesn’t love a slumber party?!  It’s The Perfect Outreach for teens and tweens!

Lutheran South 3And as you can see, if you plan a lock-in, they will come! So be prepared. Enlist moms, women, and college-age girls to pitch in and help throughout the evening.  Plan and prepare some fun activities (mani/pedi and craft stations, games, karaoke, movie, etc.), and provide plenty of food and snacks. But most importantly, be sure to Titus 2 – reach and teach those girls God’s Word.

Last Friday night, I had a blast with the 6-12th grade girls at Lutheran South Christian Academy in Houston at their lock-in.

Lutheran South 2And just look at ‘em. These girls are so loving the lock-in!

Lutheran South 1Florencia Straub (pictured left) helped organize the lock-in and invited me to come speak. And since many of the Lutheran South girls are about to begin my Beauty by The Book for Teens Bible study in their Bible classes, I was overjoyed to meet them.

Teenagers. Do not be afraid of them. Let God use you reach them with His love at a lock-in!

5)        Plan a Mother-Daughter Event.  But don’t just invite mothers and daughters, be sure to include grandmothers, aunts, nieces, etc., too. More than just a female-bonding experience, mother-daughter events bring generations of women together to celebrate and strengthen relationships. It’s a beautiful thing!

And as a matter of fact, I just spoke at a great Mother-Daughter Luncheon at Arcadia First Baptist Church in Santa Fe, Texas, my hometown. And look who I met . . .

Arcadia 2. . . a little princess!

Arcadia 4And a couple of senior princesses, too! Tiaras were optional, but since the theme was “I am a Princess: My Father is the King of Kings,” there were lots of blingy tiaras.

But the thing I most enjoy seeing at events like these is this:

Arcadia 3Moms, daughters, and women of all ages and generations gathering together for some rare and priceless time together.

Arcadia 1Peggy Anderson (pictured left) and her team planned and led the event that reached over 200 women in our small community. What sweet fellowship we enjoyed and what wonderful memories we all made together that day!

Mother-Daughter events (or Mothers & Others as some churches call them) are a beautiful way for you to reach women from every generation.

25+ years ago, I never dreamed that God would call me to women’s ministry. I was 28 (far too young I thought), untrained (there was no Women’s Ministry training back them), and I was (and still am) an introvert. But God gave me a heart to reach women. And He has patiently, faithfully equipped and trained me through the years.

Precious sister, what about you? Has God has given you a heart to reach women? If so, then I exhort you to give up your excuses and give in to Him. God can use you in spite you.

And I know that firsthand.

Your sister,

Laurie-sig-300dpiHow are you and your church reaching women for Christ? Share what’s worked for you!

 P. S. Need a speaker for your women’s ministry event? I’d sure love to come! Click here for more info.

Front Porch Friday: 4th Thing You Should NEVER Say to God

Front Porch Friday logoGot any repeat offenders in your life? You know, friends, relatives, co-workers, or others who offend or hurt you repeatedly? Join Laurie and Mindy Ferguson on the porch today to discover how to handle repeat offenders as they continue their series Why Did I Say That? 5 Things You Should NEVER Say to God. See you on the porch!

Your sister,

Laurie-sig-300dpiHow is the Lord challenging you to forgive? What has He taught you about forgiveness? Thanks for sharing your heart and your prayer requests!

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Me & My Man: Celebrating 35 Years California-Style

Mork and MindyWhat do bell-bottom jeans, Mork & Mindy, the Bee Gees, disco fever, and me and my man all have in common?

All were hot back in 1978.

So, at the ripe old age of 20, Bill and I tied the knot, took a honeymoon, and started our lives together.

Fast forward 35 years, and I am happy to tell you that Bill and I are still hot for each another and so very grateful to God for allowing us to celebrate a milestone anniversary this year!

And because we both love California (and because we were already scheduled to be there for a recent retreat with the wonderful women of Grace Community Church in Visalia, CA), Bill and I took a cue from Song of Solomon 2:10-13 and decided to celebrate The Big 3-5 on the beautiful West Coast last week.

So today, I’m going to share a few pictures from our trip with you. But I’m also going to do my very best to inspire you to take every vacation day you’ve earned this year as I share:

5 Reasons Why YOU Need to Get Away & Celebrate

Let the inspiration begin!

#1 – You need a fresh awakening of the awe and wonder of God.

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And what better place to be awed by God than at The Sequoia National Park? Bill was like a wide-eyed boy as we walked the trails and . . .

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. . . craned our necks to see the tops of these gigantic reminders of the magnificence of God. And believe it or not, this was one of the medium-sized trees.

#2: You need a great big dose of natural, take-your-breath-away beauty.

Sometimes we forget how beautiful our world really is. The headlines, the freeways, and the day-to-day routines of life dull our senses and our awareness  of the beauty of God’s creation all around us.D

This picture doesn’t even begin to do them justice, but these are the Sierra Mountains in California. Bill and I were blown away by their beauty, and during this time of the year you can still see snow on many of the highest peaks.

And take a look at what Bill and I saw while we were out driving around the Pacific Grove coastline one day:21

Even Bill (a man who almost always chooses the Interstate over the scenic route) had to stop the car so we could get out and take a few pictures.3

Is he cute or what? Proof that breath-taking beauty can transform even the most hard-core, big city, interstate driver.

#3: Your life (and lungs) needs a crisp infusion of fresh air.

5My 55-year-old body felt at least 10 years younger all because of the invigorating fragrance of the fresh, salt air.

7Plus, did you notice that I’m wearing a coat? It’s so much cooler on the Pacific Coast than it is on the Texas Gulf Coast where I live. Now don’t get me wrong, I looove the Lone Star State, but this Texas gal enjoyed every single minute of  the air-conditioned, humidity-free California climate.

#4: You need to be surprised by discovering things you’ve never seen before.

30And Carmel is the perfect place to do both! Look what this dyed-in-the-wool, drink-the-Koolaid, Jane-Austen fan found while Bill and I were wandering around the Ocean Drive shopping district one afternoon. Such a fun surprise! But look what else we discovered in Carmel:

6The cutest cottage ever! Attention all cottage lovers: Carmel is Cottage Heaven.

#5: You need to experience a new adventure.

10Like whale watching! Bill and I took an afternoon boat tour in Monterey. The sea was choppy and rough. The brisk, salt-wind was in our face. 9My Texas hair was one big mess. But see that smile on my face? I did not care about my hair because look what we saw in the distance that day:Whale tail!

A humpback whale! Well . . . a humpback whale tail. But honestly, I cannot describe how exciting it was to be close enough to see even the faintest sign – like the sudden spew from their blow-holes bursting up from beneath the waves – of these magnificent, massive mammals. It was fun, exciting, and leeetle bit scary all at the same time. It was ADVENTURE that’s what it was!

And even if you do go whale-watching in Monterey, and even if you don’t see one, single whale, you can always enjoy an adventure-lite experience at . . .29

. . . the Monterey Aquarium where killer whales fly right over your head! And although Bill and I are not exactly what you’d call “big aquarium people,” everyone kept telling us, “You MUST see the aquarium while you’re in Monterey.” And I MUST admit: They were right. Even adventure-lite is awesome.

Well, that just about brings this post to an end. I’ve done my  best to inspire you to get out your calendar, schedule a few vacation days (or weeks if you have ‘em), stash away some cash and — best of all — get away and celebrate. Now, it’s up to you.

Yes, I know. You’re a very busy girl. But don’t forget:

Even God rested.

And whether you’re single or married, allow me a few final words of inspiration:

“My lover said to me, ‘Rise up, my darling! Come away with me, my fair one! Look, the winter is past, and the rains are over and gone. The flowers are springing up, the season of singing birds has come, and the cooing turtledoves fills the air. The fig trees are forming young fruit, and the fragrant grapevines are blossoming. Rise up, my darling! Come away with me, my fair one!’” Song of Solomon 2:10-13 NLT

Celebrate the love God has lavished upon you. Plan today to get away.

Your sister (with an “amen” from my man, Bill),

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What’s the best get-away you’ve ever taken and why was it worth it? Thanks for sharing!