There’s a new pity party in town, and it’s called a “Me Party.” Haven’t heard of it? Basically, it’s a pity party wrapped in cute clothes, great food, fun times, and, occasionally, backup dancers. And the best part of all, it’s all about Y-O-U! Check it out:
But, as tempting and exciting as Amy Adams and Miss Piggy make them look, Me Parties aren’t all they’re cracked up to be. The truth is, they’re merely temporary solutions to underlying problems.
Your own Me Party could be inspired by anything from a setback at work, a fight with your husband, or a harsh word from a friend, to PMS or just an overall feeling of loneliness or hopelessness.
And, there are as many different “themes” to a Me Party as there are “Me’s” to begin with. Your own Me Party could involve retail therapy, an unnecessarily long bubble bath, an overindulgence of food, alcohol or drugs, or simply an escape through a movie, a book, sleep, or a random destination.
I’ll admit, my personality tends to be drawn towards Me Parties very easily. When I’m frustrated, overworked, lonely, stressed or tired, my first inclination is to shut everybody out and withdraw into my own little world of Emily Land: Population 1. But there are a few things we all need to remember before throwing a Me Party:
- At some point, the party will end.
One of the worst parts of throwing a party, in my opinion, is cleaning up afterwards. The fun only lasts for a short while, and then the hostess is left to sweep, clean, straighten and restore. Don’t have anything at your Me Party that you don’t want to have to clean up later.
- Others can’t RSVP “yes” if they’re not invited.
You may think that no one cares and you’re all alone in your misery, but that’s not necessarily the truth. If you give others an invitation into your life, they just might join you after all. Yes, it’s true; they may let you down, stand you up, or even leave early, but they can never prove they care if they aren’t given a chance.
- You are never truly alone at a Me Party
Here comes the truth you know in your head but sometimes forget in your heart: You are never alone. God is with you. He has not left you. He has not forgotten about you. He has not neglected you. (Matt. 28:20) He always cares, and He is always working behind the scenes in your life.
- You’re less likely to need a Me Party when every day is a He Party.
Chances are, if you’re spending regular, quality time with God, your desire for a Me Party will dissolve. It’s hard to focus on yourself when you’re focusing on Him instead.
Every now and then, us girls do need some time to ourselves, and I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with that. Let’s just be careful to keep a Me Party from becoming the social event of the year.
Q: What makes you want to throw a Me Party? What have you found that works instead?