It may seem odd, but when talking with women about BFFs (biblical friends forever), one of the best places to start is by looking at a timeless example of friendship between two men.
David and Jonathon.
Snapshots of their relationship spring up in the pages of 1 and 2 Samuel, and their story of friendship, love and devotion to each other is the stuff that Hallmark movies are made of.
But what makes their friendship so special, and what can we learn about developing our own BFF relationships from these two men? Consider this beautiful quote from 1 Sam. 18:1:
After David had finished talking with Saul, Jonathan became one in spirit with David, and he loved him as himself.
Did you catch those three little important words? David and Jonathan were great friends because they were “one in spirit.” Their devotion to God was the foundation of their relationship. They were spiritually in sync, and they walked the walk together.
In reality, David and Jonathan are a perfect example of the potential for things to go really wrong in a friendship. After all, Jonathan was King Saul’s son, and technically in line for the throne, but David was God’s choice to be king. But, while egos and agendas could have ruined these two forever, because they were both devoted to the Lord, their friendship lasted through generations. The last time they spoke, Jonathan said this:
Jonathan said to David, “Go in peace, for we have sworn friendship with each other in the name of the LORD, saying, ‘The LORD is witness between you and me, and between your descendants and my descendants forever.” 1 Sam. 20:4
Isn’t that beautiful? “A sworn friendship with each other in the name of the Lord.” See, Hallmark move, I tell ya!
Do you have friends who walk your walk? Are you spiritually in sync with each other? If not, I have some advice that (I think) originated from Tommy Nelson many years ago. He suggested that you run as hard and fast as you can towards Jesus. Then, every now and then, stop to look around and see who’s running beside you. Those are the people who are spiritually in sync with you.
There are several reasons why it’s important that your BFFs walk you walk. Your BFFs are the ones:
- You’ll go to for advice. (Don’t you want it to be biblical?)
- You’ll have fun with. (Shouldn’t it be moral?)
- You’ll cry with. (Don’t you want to be reminded of Hope?)
- You’ll see again. (Why should death end the party!?)
Someone once said, “Show me your friends and I’ll predict your future.” Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”
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